Failing to notice positive behavior in your spouse is very dangerous. Besides, marriage counselors clearly state that there are mates who notice positive behavior in spouse and they fail to express appreciation for it. Why is this dangerous? It is true that one will not be happy about a negative behavior. Sometimes they will just get angry and keep to themselves. When this reaction is seen even on positive, there is danger.

The difference has to be notable so that the positive is maintained. Otherwise, there is likelihood of someone going back to negative behavior. The risk is that the return to negative can even be extreme to an extent that the damage is now even worse than it was initially.

Definitely, this is not what we desire in marriage. We would wish that things remain like they were the first day we fell in love. We would wish that the feelings we had for each other never change but keep growing with each new tomorrow. We would wish to die in love and to always be there for one another.

It is therefore important that we struggle to see the positive in our partner and not the negative as advised in marriage counseling. It is true that there will be negatives but this must be clothed with the positives. If we see any, let the partner know that the positive is appreciated so that they keep it up.